In this episode of the Daily Stoic, Ryan Holiday interviews Will Guidara, author of Unreasonable Hospitality — read it if you haven’t. I paused when Guidara said: “Adversity is a terrible thing to waste.” It’s a well-formed phrase for an idea I’ve been turning over for a while.

You see, lately, I’ve been thinking about empathy differently. We tend to treat it as the ability to feel what someone else is feeling. But I think it’s more than that — it’s putting yourself in a position to metabolize those feelings with them. Together, not just beside them.